𝐇𝐎𝐖 𝐓𝐎 𝐁𝐄 𝐀 𝐏𝐎𝐖𝐄𝐑𝐅𝐔𝐋 𝐏𝐄𝐑𝐒𝐎𝐍

According to the Chinese philosopher,  Lao Tzu "Mastering yourself is true power."

I bet if asked if you would like to be a powerful person, the answer would be a resounding yes!

In one way or the other, we all want to be powerful or be associated with perceived powerful persons. 

But have you ever wondered or asked yourself what it takes to be a powerful person or what makes a powerful person?

To the society, money is power, politics is power, fame is power and physical might or strength is power. For some, being deceptive, a bully, a manipulator, an intimidator, a threat to life, a gangster, an alcoholic, a drug addict, a sexual narcist is a form of power. 

Some have resorted to doing the unimaginable - killing fellow human, integrity sold - especially in the political space -,  conscience sold and other atrocities that ordinarily they wouldn't do as a means to acquire or retain power. For some, the use of weaponry for the sole aim of intimidation is a form of acquiring power. 

Why these may be some form of acquiring power or true in certain aspects to entail what makes a powerful person, beyond these is the real power no one can take from you and that power comes from within. 

Money can be taken away or vanished, political power can be taken away and physical strength can diminish. weapons of intimidation of any kind won't last for long and can be taken away but the power from within stays with you throughout life and even beyond.

SO WHAT MAKES A POWERFUL PERSON? THE POWER THAT NO ONE CAN TAKE FROM YOU

1. ENJOY YOUR OWN COMPANY: A person who learns to enjoy his or her own company or spending time alone is one who has stopped seeking validation from people. One who has a vision, a goal and a dream to pursue and taking action towards realizing his/her set goals and dreams. This person has a direction in life. This person's happiness is not dependent on others. One of the healthiest and powerful thing a person can do is to learn how to be okay by themselves. This way, you can't be easily tossed around by the wind or swayed by people's opinions. Being able to enjoy your own company and spending time alone stems from enhanced self-love and self-discovery. 

2. BE UNIQUE: Be unique in all you do. You are not meant to join the crowd but to stand out. You don't need to follow the trend but uniquely holding your thing. Do not be competitive or compare yourself with someone else but strive daily to become a better version of yourself. Your only competition is YOU. Standing out or being unique indicates you know yourself, you know your gifts and are cultivating and developing these gifts. You know your calling and staying true to your calling. You walk the path that only very few walk and this is so empowering and enriching. You constantly act on the inspirations and insights divinely offered to you. Being unique and standing out can bring you through a lonely path, but you ain't alone. You have divine powers guiding you through this unique and divine path given to you.  Being unique empowers you to be self confident, authentic and enables you to have deeper connections with others as a result of embracing your true self instead of conforming to societal expectations.  

3. STOP CHASING: Stop chasing and start attracting. Stop chasing people to be accepted, liked or loved. Instead of chasing, use that same energy to start building yourself and when you do, you will naturally attract things and people aligned with who you are. The more you invest in yourself, the more people are drawn to your light. The power in attracting and not chasing is that you radiate a quiet confidence that naturally draws things and people to you as well as enable you create a healthier and more fulfilling relationships.

4. TAKE ON THE CHALLENGE: Do you give up on your dreams just because you experienced experienced failures or made mistakes? For every failure or mistake made is an opportunity to take up the challenge to do better and improve. You learn form your mistakes and failures thus making you a powerful person. The power in taking on the challenge is that it makes you become more resilient and  perseverant in the face of difficulties. It makes you know more about your capabilities and abilities. This power also brings to you a sense of accomplishment and purpose. You also become a source of inspiration and motivation to others.

5. BE SELF-DISCIPLINED: Self-discipline is often misunderstood by some as a trait born with certain people but this is not the case. Self-discipline is a skill developed and strengthened over time by those who desire it and want to succeed in life.  It is about perseverance and commitment. The difference between successful people and unsuccessful people is self-discipline. To thrive and flourish in life, you need to be self-disciplined. Self-discipline is crucial for the realization of goals, a fulfilled life, successful career, over all health and so much more. Motivation alone is not enough to keep you going but discipline does. The power in self-discipline is the ability to control your thoughts, push yourself past procrastination,  low motivation and days of frustration. People who possess self-discipline are better equipped to accomplish much more than those who do not.

Self-discipline is the courage to stay the course, push through the pain and resist the temptation to give up.

6. BE PRINCIPLED: Be clear about what you stand for and live by them. Have a moral compass that guide your actions such as honesty, loyalty, trust, a sense of fairness, uncompromising. standing or taking a stand  for what you believe in irrespective of the situation you find yourself in and respect for others irrespective of age, class or status. A principled person is seen and known with a consistent behavior.

The power in being principled is that you gain clarity of who you are, you are authentic, you build trust, you have a consistent behavior that aligns with your values and the ability to navigate life through difficulties or challenges.

 

7. BE INDEPENDENT: Learning to be Independent or self-reliant is very important in today's fast paced world. To find your voice, you must trust yourself to be independent enough. Independence is not just a concept but a way of life and a journey that we must all embark on  if we must find our own voice and our true self. Being independent does not mean you can't be vulnerable or seek help when needed. We all need each other to thrive and flourish in life. 

To be independent is to be able to to learn to walk life's journey and into beautiful things on your own. It is being able to find your path, live this path and mentally relying on yourself to deal with and pull through life's challenges 

The power in independence is being able to trust yourself, make personal decisions and in the process find your path and your voice. 

8. BE OF SERVICE TO HUMANITY AND TO GOD: To become a powerful person, you've got to be of service to humanity in the life style that suits you - your values and purpose in life. When you make life all about you and no one else, trust me, you'd see yourself just struggling to survive because all you have is meant for your survival only. In my book, The Beauty and Power of A Purposeful Life I had made mention of the three levels of life analyzed by Samuel Fulkerson which are survival, success and significance. To thrive and flourish in life, we must get to the level of significance else every other level is just struggles. And to get to the significance stage, you just have to be of service to humanity even in your own little way.

There are so many ways to be of service to humanity and these include, being a mentor to someone, lend a helping hand, serve in your community, give to the motherless, the needy. You could even volunteer to serve in a program or an organization where you could be of service to as many people as possible. 

To be able to be of service to humanity, ensure your service aligns with your values and life's purpose. This make is much easier for you to be of service else instead of making you powerful, it will make you feel the opposite effect. It will drain you and make you feel like you are struggling instead of thriving.

According to Joyce Meyers, we should all have this mentality of I am here to serve and I believe we are called to serve in one way or the other either at our work places, business places, in our communities and wherever we find ourselves. Life is not always about the money like the salaries we receive in our jobs but more of the service we give in our work and other places we may find ourselves. 

Life is not always about receiving but ore of giving. It is said that it is more blessed to give than to receive. The greatest joy we can ever feel or experience is serving and giving to others. The greatest leaders are those with service mentality and not those who just want to boss people around.

. SERVICE TO GOD: Service in your local church or religious settings. Serving in local church helps advance the kingdom of God and in turn also enables you to be of service to humanity as well. Take for instance the ushers, who in usher in members or the children teachers who teach the ways of God in the church. These are services to God and to humanity. 

Find a unit in your church where you can be of service. We sometimes miss the blessings even greater blessings when all we think about is what others can do for us and not what we can do for others. Greatness in God's kingdom is measured by nothing else but our willingness to serve. 

The power of service to God and humanity is that it brings with it growth, fulfilment, joy from within, transforms lives and the society at large.

These powers mentioned above consist of your mind-set, character, self-worth, discipline, true knowledge of things and of who you are. No one and nothing can take these powers from you because this is who you are.

They are not influenced by outside forces but come from within. You are not easily shaken or swayed by what people say or do to you. You are not defined by the words or actions of people but by these powers from within.

Don't live your life based on external pressures or influences but rather be guided by your inner values. 

What other power do you think no one can take away from you? Please mention them in the comment section so we can all learn from each other and start cultivating, nurturing and developing these powers within. 

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